The Healed Lover
Book One of The Healed Lover series
The Healed Lover
Tools for Reclaiming the Sovereign Self
Rey T. Singh
What if the love you have been searching for begins with the man in the mirror?
Coming November 2026
About the book
Most men were never taught how to love well. They were taught to perform, to provide, to pursue — but not how to understand themselves deeply enough to build the genuine, lasting, reciprocal connection they actually want.
The Healed Lover changes that.
Drawing on over 25,000 hours of clinical practice as a Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist — and on his own honest journey through attachment wounds, relational patterns, and the long work of turning inward — Rey T. Singh offers men a grounded, compassionate, and practically powerful guide to understanding themselves in relationship.
This book will help you:
- Understand what trauma and attachment have been doing to your relational choices — without you knowing it
- Recognize genuine connection from familiar patterns that were never love
- Navigate the modern dating landscape with somatic awareness and honest discernment
- Build the daily inner architecture of a man worthy of the love he seeks
- Leave what diminishes you — and return to yourself with sovereignty and dignity
The Healed Lover is not a book about finding the right person. It is a book about becoming one.
Praise
“Rey T. Singh has created an integrative guide to healing and relationships that thoughtfully incorporates Polyvagal Theory within a broader trauma-informed and relational framework. His compassionate approach offers readers practical tools for cultivating self-awareness, resilience, and authentic connection.”
“Rey T. Singh has spent close to two decades sitting with men in their hardest moments. He has done his own healing, and it shows. These books carry his heart and his skill, and they will help a great many men find their way home.”
“Authentic healing begins when you allow yourself to be vulnerable emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. If healing were easy, everyone would do it. When healing, do your 50%, and Creator will help with the other 50%. These books show you how to do your 50%.”
“…it speaks to something fundamentally human: the desire to come home to ourselves.”
Where to get it
The Healed Lover arrives in November 2026. Links to each edition will appear here as they become available.
- PaperbackLink coming soon
- EbookLink coming soon
- AudiobookLink coming soon
Book details
- Title
- The Healed Lover: Tools for Reclaiming the Sovereign Self
- Series
- The Healed Lover, Book One
- Author
- Rey T. Singh, MSW, RSW, RCS, C.Hyp.
- ISBN (paperback)
- 978-1-0680125-0-1
- Editions
- Paperback, ebook and audiobook
- Publisher
- Independently published, London, Ontario, Canada
- Release
- November 2026
Continue with Book Two
Loving from Sovereignty: A Man’s Guide to Love, Discernment, and Lasting Connection
You did the work. You came home to yourself. Now — how do you love someone else without losing the ground you fought for?
Explore Book Two